How do you channel your anger?

How do you channel your anger?

Anger is a deeply primal emotion, one we are often taught it is bad to express.
And of course there is a reality to that. Anger management courses are a thing because of road rage and football hooligans and domestic violence, to name but a few of the more obvious ways this emotion is expressed.

Normalising Anger

Yet, everyone feels angry at times, it’s a normal and evolutionarily supported response to a sometimes dangerous world.
Anger is a response to feeling attacked, and to having your boundaries challenged or ignored. It can also be triggered by hurt or sadness. It is part of the fight-flight-freeze axis.
This also links anger to fear, they are two sides of the same hormonal response. Still, while fear is in some ways encouraged in society (think of the whole Horror genre), anger is not.
This primal force does have a positive aspect, though.
As suggested by the gorgeous unicorn that inspired my tapping post on Tuesday, anger can be expressed positively. It can fuel a passion, and energise you to fight for a project, cause or person.
The question, then, becomes one of better understanding your anger, and channeling it appropriately. How about trying this spread, designed for just that!

Anger Spread

1) What is underlying this anger?
2) Why is it being triggered now?
3) How can you best channel it?
4) What is the best potential outcome?

Sample Reading

Drawing from the Cosmic Mother Tarot (Alice B. Grist, 2017), I got this reading:

1) What is underlying this anger? – Two of Swords

This bikini-clad, blue-haired lady can’t see for the hair in her eyes. She holds two swords by the pommel, blade down. She appears to stand in a boat, surrounded by water.

Underlying my anger is a sense of uncertainty. I don’t know what to do or which way to go, stuck between a rock and a hard place. In these circumstances, anger seems helpful, a way to fight of the uncertainty. It gives me the energy to do something, anything, to try to break out of the stuckness.

2) Why is it being triggered now? – Three of Wands

I notice the fact that the figure here seems to be in a garden or park, separated from the city by a river.
In this, I see myself cut off from ‘grownup’ life. While I’m not entirely a stay-at-home mum, in some ways my sons create an obstacle between me and having a career. Also, that river highlights the importance of clear, strong boundaries, which I’m not good at.
More and more, I’m trying to reach out into the world again and become more engaged. Hampered by childcare, I sometimes resent it and get angry. If I were clearer in my own boundaries, I probably wouldn’t get pushed until I explode.
3) How can you best channel it? – Princess of Pentacles
There’s a very alive feel to this card. The Princess is surrounded by flowers, and appears to have something growing in her bright red hair. Her body is clothed in green, too. She seems vibrantly alive and connected with the world around her. These are not the fruits of labour. Rather it is the beauty and joy of growth and potential.

Well, the first thing this Princess suggests to me as a way to channel my anger is to workout! 😀

More seriously, there is the suggestion of making a new start. I’ve not been doing much in terms of creativity and seeking external work opportunities of late, and that needs to change.
Getting back to a creative project I’ve set to one side for the last six months is definitely a place to start. And so is designing and marketing some new classes.

4) What is the best potential outcome? – Queen of Swords

Oh yes, I love this Queen! While some decks show the Queen of Swords as old/bitchy/embittered, here we have an energetic, dark-haired woman dressed in blue. She holds a sword at the height of her yoni. This is a woman unafraid of her own creativity and willing to speak her truth.
So, the best potential outcome is that, with clear, firm boundaries, I can speak my truth in a way that honours myself and the other person. I can be clear and empathetic, without getting angry. I really like the sound of that!
If you ever worry about getting angry, I hope you’ll give this tarot spread a try 🙂 And if you like the look of the Cosmic Mother Tarot, why not check out my interview with Alice, the creator?
Love,
Chloë

6 Comments

  1. Ellen on May 11, 2018 at 6:33 pm

    It’s hard for me to be really angry. Annoyed and irritated yes but that’s about it. A lot of my anger is suppressed until it boils over. You don’t want to be around me then.☺⛈
    I might try this spread for myself when I feel “not amused”, before it gets worse.

    • Chloe on May 30, 2018 at 9:45 am

      That’s exactly it, Ellen! A lot of us do that, I think, suppress it until suddenly we can’t. That never ends well 😀

  2. Beverly King on May 11, 2018 at 7:32 pm

    For me, anger (or any other emotion) is neither good nor bad on its own – it is simply a rush of energy through the body. If I start writing mental dramas in my head about what instigated the emotion, I just add fuel to the fire and my clarity and ability to respond mindfully gets shot to hell. At that point I need a time out to journal, talk with an objective person, create, walk, use your tarot spread, etc. to get some space between the thoughts and emotions. 🙂

    • Chloe on May 30, 2018 at 9:46 am

      You’re so right, Bev! It’s the mental stories we create around these emotions that causes the issues. I also like doing a kick-a**e workout to clear my head 😀

  3. Lisa Frideborg Eddy on May 11, 2018 at 7:50 pm

    Love this reading Chloe, will bookmark the spread for when I need a reading about anger. I’m currently all out of angry feelings haha! Thank you xx

    • Chloe on May 30, 2018 at 9:47 am

      I think, a bit like Bev said, you often channel your angry feelings through journalling, or in this case blogging 😀 Whatever works, right?! 😉

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